He sent another letter today that I will also post where he says I'm a terrible person for not helping my alcoholic brother who landed himself in prison after several DUI's and various other charges stemming from a high speed chase wherein he rolled his car, injured his passenger, and ran from the scene of the crime and disappeared for a year, not once callling to let me know he was okay. Yes I used to help him and then I was labled as an enabler. There is no winning with my father so I do what I feel is right. Joe quit corresponding with me when I asked that he keep the conversations between he and I to ourselves but he wouldn't and my father used what I said and wrote against me anyway he can.
Heather, In spite of what you must imagine you're not friend to anyone, least of all Jeff, the Hughs and Avalon. Some day when you're older, as does my sister Beth, you'll realize that all you collected is broken relationships, ugliness, enemies. Your Mom and I aren't concerned about your feelings or lack of them for us but can't imagine how you can be so heartless to have rejected Joe when he needed you. If it weren't for your Mom and me, Joe wouldn't have had so much as a postage stamp or a pair of undershorts this past two years, let alone a sincere visitor. Sure, you went to see him once but when you found out he was in contact with us...and he had no choice if we wanted enough to eat, warm clothing, legal representation, money or anything else...you abandoned him just as you abandoned everyone else you're related to. You weren't smart enough to realize that the only reason my sisters attended your wedding and Joe's was in revenge against me; they cared nothing for you and still don't as proven by their abandonment of you. They were there to assist your rebellion but cared so little for you they've not come back to try to help you through it. Beth is finally realizing....now that it's too late to do anything about it...that her presence in Larry's, Steve's Mark's, Travis's, and Jared's lives served only to set them apart from each other and her. Someday you'll realize, as will Jeff, your in-laws and Avalon, that your presence, instead of uniting families, served only to divide them. And although you won't believe it now, your actions will someday divide you from your daughter...she won't always be little and Jeff won't always be immature and naive. They will figure you out and see you as the over-painted, often obese, always deceiver you are. When that happens, neither will you have a home or friend here, or family member who care anything about you. Your influence in Kristian's life from the moment he became reacquainted with you produces nothing but strife and alienation; your influence in Tammy's life, nothing short of betrayal to Joe, has done nothing but harm him and Garrett. A good name for you is Jezebel; you're scheming and disloyal, a betrayer, evil in the truest sense of the word. We tell Joe, and mean it, that he's better off without you; thankfully, he believes it. You publish for the world to see your "deep concerns" for him and in those same internet postings painted a picture of me as one who not only wouldn't help him but stood in your shadow in that regard. Joe now understands who you are and why you do this; he sees you for what you are and what you've done, not just to our family, but to his family and yours. Shame, shame, shame on you Heather. Don't bother coming back to see us ever; your Mom and I have left instruction that nothing of ours is ever to go to you and you're not to be allowed even at our funerals. We're glad in one way that things have happened the way they did. Now Hilary has Joe to protect her from you in the event something happens to us. As you have sown, so shall you reap, this an eternal blessing; perhaps, before you die, you will understand it and turn from your ways. Dad
Here is the latest letter today. He is just crazy and manipulative.
and I feel badly for Joe in your regard. He has nothing and no one but us to help him. In spite of what you may imagine about the Corrections system, and in spite of what the incarcerated may deserve, they're given nothing tangible and little to eat or wear. If it weren't for your Mom and me Joe wouldn't have underwear, socks, toiletries, writing materials, stamps, eye glasses, medical and dental care or spending money. His position is so hopeless our concern is that he'll give up and try to harm himself. He's so far behind on child support and has so many judgments and collections he has almost no money left at the end of every month. In pre-release for 9 months now, he has less than $75 a month to spend on himself after child support and judgments. We're glad we're able to furnish him a place to live with utilities and able to buy him groceries and clothing yet he finds little hope in that. How can you look yourself in the mirror knowing how you're treating Joe. Do you think it makes it easier for him because he caused his own problems? Do you think it's easy for him to have to count on his parents for basic needs at his age? For sure, he can't count on you, even for kindness, compassion, sympathy or pity....and he's truly in a pitiable position. What kind of a sister are you? Would you want anyone to treat your daughter the way you treat Joe? Were I you I'd hope with all my heart there is no God. If it's true that people reap what they sow, you're in for a miserable future. Whatever you do, don't say the Lord's prayer....if God forgives you the way you forgive others you'll go straight to hell. I'm ashamed of you Heather; you're such a disappointment to the Nickol families. Dad
Now I'm off to see why the block I had on him isn't there. I don't need this in my life. And I hope you can see why I haven't had a relationship with them for the past 10+ years.